The Portal- Nude Selfies as High Art, Venus Retrograde, and Making Healthy Habits Second Nature

Photo via Unsplash Welcome to The Portal- a regular link roundup of the best of the internet, as I've found it. The Nude Selfie Is Now High Art- From the New York Times Opinion section, take a peak inside the boom of nude selfies in the age of quarantine, and how intimacy and desire are

Eleven Things I Wish I Knew About Love and Dating in my Twenties

Photo via Unsplash This is the longest I've been single in my adult life (one year, with periods of dating and a fling.) I've taken it upon myself to research love and dating, why we choose the partners we do (since, like many others, I was so very clearly choosing wrong,) and really just seeking

I tried Dry February While Getting Back into the Dating Scene and Here’s What Happened

This is my third year embarking on a “dry” month — thirty consecutive days with no alcohol. The first time I tried it I only made it until Valentines day, which should have been a telling sign about the relationship I was in at the time, or my relationship to wine at the time, or

Your Guide to Healing From a Broken Heart

It sucks. There's no denying it. Maybe the pain feels like it will never end and you feel stupid for thinking that maybe, this time, it wouldn't end in heart break. You feel alone in your hurting and wonder why it happened, and wonder how things could be different in an alternate universe. The fact

Where You’ve Been Doesn’t Dictate Where You’re Going- Leaving your Past Where it Belongs

"Everything, including love, hate, and suffering, needs food to continue. If suffering continues, it's because we keep feeding our suffering." - Thich Nhat Hanh Just because you've been in the dark doesn't mean you have to stay there. Your past, your trauma, and your pain do not need to be packed up in your suitcase.

Enjoy Being Alone

"Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity, and when you do meet the person who makes your cells dance,

Giving Yourself Permission to Do What You Really Want

"You've got to go with your desire to feel good." - Abraham Hicks Our desires shape our lives. These can be desires of avoidance: I don't want to be ridiculed, I don't want to get hurt or desires of accumulation: I want to live in a house by the beach, I want to find love. We

Relationships Can’t Fulfill You Unless You Fulfill Yourself First

"If you aren't happy single, you won't be happy taken." As a former serial monogamist, I used to believe being in a romantic relationship was the key to happiness. If I was single, I was always looking, and guilty of downloading dating apps or smooching someone new within days of a breakup. Despite loving my

Learning to Trust and Let Go

"Let come what comes. Let go what goes. See what remains." -Ramana Maharshi Choosing to trust makes hardships less of a burden to bare, and it keeps our hearts calm in uncertainty. Trusting that things are happening for our highest good lets the light in when we need it the most. When you have faith,