Every year, without fail, singles and taken folk alike get their panties all twisted in a bunch and moan about what a drag Valentines day is. If you're single, you're supposed to feel lonely and unwanted, and if you're paired, you're bound to be disappointed by the impossible standards set by marketers. Many people even
Ghosting stings. It can make you feel rejected and abandoned at the same time, and it offers you no closure or feedback whatsoever. It’s an incredibly frustrating experience, and if it’s happened to you, I feel for you, I really do. In fact, research shows that social rejection and physical pain activate the same regions of the
You've download the dating apps. You work up the courage to ask so-and-so out. You’re becoming the best version of yourself and you’re ready to share that with someone else. You’re trying. You’re putting yourself out there, and that’s something to be proud of. At least you’re not playing scared. Maybe you’ve been on countless
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Sometimes, in moments of loneliness or poor self esteem, we say yes to spending time with people who bring us down. Maybe it's because they are always negative or complaining, or maybe they gossip incessantly. Perhaps you have a friend you gives you back-handed compliments, or frequently puts you down ever-so-subtly. One skill I encourage
I love being single. I write about it, I live it, and just the other day I bought a candle I hadn’t bought in a year and I was thinking why does that smell so good, and I realized, the last time I bought that candle was right after my ex moved out. That was
This is my third year embarking on a “dry” month — thirty consecutive days with no alcohol. The first time I tried it I only made it until Valentines day, which should have been a telling sign about the relationship I was in at the time, or my relationship to wine at the time, or
It sucks. There's no denying it. Maybe the pain feels like it will never end and you feel stupid for thinking that maybe, this time, it wouldn't end in heart break. You feel alone in your hurting and wonder why it happened, and wonder how things could be different in an alternate universe. The fact
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"Everything, including love, hate, and suffering, needs food to continue. If suffering continues, it's because we keep feeding our suffering." - Thich Nhat Hanh Just because you've been in the dark doesn't mean you have to stay there. Your past, your trauma, and your pain do not need to be packed up in your suitcase.
"Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity, and when you do meet the person who makes your cells dance,
"You've got to go with your desire to feel good." - Abraham Hicks Our desires shape our lives. These can be desires of avoidance: I don't want to be ridiculed, I don't want to get hurt or desires of accumulation: I want to live in a house by the beach, I want to find love. We
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