2020 Is a Disaster. Here’s Why I’m Thankful For All of It

Luke Bender via Unsplash This year I’m thankful for the pandemic. I’m thankful for the political climate, for the stress, for the economic uncertainty, and for having limited time with loved ones—truly, I am. Hear me out. I’m thankful for the pause, the upheaval, and the wake up call. I'm grateful for the at times…

Why You Sometimes Have to Walk Away From Someone You Love

Photo by Austin Chan via Unsplash Emotional abuse can creep up on you, and there's nothing you could do that warrants abusive behavior. Although it's sometimes hard to believe, not everyone we meet, love, and bond with is meant to be in our lives forever. It can be challenging, however, to accept that when you…

5 Ways to Move on When You Get Ghosted

Ghosting stings. It can make you feel rejected and abandoned at the same time, and it offers you no closure or feedback whatsoever. It’s an incredibly frustrating experience, and if it’s happened to you, I feel for you, I really do. In fact, research shows that social rejection and physical pain activate the same regions of the…

5 Dating Mistakes to Stop Making, According to Experts

You've download the dating apps. You work up the courage to ask so-and-so out. You’re becoming the best version of yourself and you’re ready to share that with someone else. You’re trying. You’re putting yourself out there, and that’s something to be proud of. At least you’re not playing scared. Maybe you’ve been on countless…

Dating is Hard- Here’s Why You Should Do it Anyways

Photo by Wyron A via Unsplash Dating is hard. It’s a numbers game, meaning you have to go through a lot of duds to get to a winner, and even then you better hope and pray you’re both self-aware enough to make it last, and are both at the right place at the right time,…

Be Selective With Your Company and Learn to Distinguish the People that Deplete You vs Recharge You

Sometimes, in moments of loneliness or poor self esteem, we say yes to spending time with people who bring us down. Maybe it's because they are always negative or complaining, or maybe they gossip incessantly. Perhaps you have a friend you gives you back-handed compliments, or frequently puts you down ever-so-subtly. One skill I encourage…

Don’t Take Love for Granted

Sometimes, especially after the honeymoon phase ends, we begin to get so comfortable with having our beloved around that we don't put as much effort into the relationship, into ourselves, and we take others for granted. Romance. KILLER! Continue to put effort into yourself, your hobbies, your friendships, your personal growth, your appearance, and your…

I Put a Ring on Myself- The Reason We All Need to Commit to Ourselves Before Someone Else

I love being single. I write about it, I live it, and just the other day I bought a candle I hadn’t bought in a year and I was thinking why does that smell so good, and I realized, the last time I bought that candle was right after my ex moved out. That was…

The Portal- Nude Selfies as High Art, Venus Retrograde, and Making Healthy Habits Second Nature

Photo via Unsplash Welcome to The Portal- a regular link roundup of the best of the internet, as I've found it. The Nude Selfie Is Now High Art- From the New York Times Opinion section, take a peak inside the boom of nude selfies in the age of quarantine, and how intimacy and desire are…

Eleven Things I Wish I Knew About Love and Dating in my Twenties

Photo via Unsplash This is the longest I've been single in my adult life (one year, with periods of dating and a fling.) I've taken it upon myself to research love and dating, why we choose the partners we do (since, like many others, I was so very clearly choosing wrong,) and really just seeking…