The Real, Scientific Reason You Keep Dating Unavailable Partners

I was the queen of dating emotionally unavailable people, and sometimes, straight up scrubs (financial wrecks, guys that lived with their parents, a couple alcoholics, and a couple other with mental health issues that they were not dealing with. It's been an adventure.) I've pined. I've wept. I've gone back to therapy. I also pushed…

The Best Advice I’ve Ever Received- How One Tool Can Help Make All Your Decisions Easier

Photo by Resa Cahya via Unsplash There's a lot of advice out there. It's easy to get lost in it all. Maybe you find yourself heading to Google every time life throws a difficult decision at you, sifting through pages of expert opinions, research, blog posts and message boards. You'll find endless answers, from various…

What To Do When You Feel Like You’re Not Doing Enough- Three Research Based Productivity Hacks To Shift Your Mindset

Have you ever thought about how much time most of us spend on the internet, or watching TV, and suddenly felt guilty that you haven’t written your memoir, doubled your income, revealed your 8 pack abs, and are still not interested in prepping food for the week on Sunday nights? It used to happen to…

Let Go of Your Grudges to Prevent Premature Aging, Among Other Things

Photo via Unsplash Your grudges are giving you premature wrinkles, aches and pains, headaches, and digestive issues. Don't believe me? Resentment releases cortisol in the body, which essentially is the stress-causing hormone. Too much cortisol, or prolonged exposure to excess cortisol, actually affects our DNA and can prematurely age us. So while a few extra…

Healthy is Messy, Despite What Certain Self Help Gurus May Try to Sell You

Healthy is messy. I’ve been to seven therapists, struggled with and overcame an eating disorder, and dipped in and out of substance abuse for years. I’ve been in emotionally abusive and codependent relationships up the wazoo, and struggled with PTSD and depression. Am I fully healed? No. Have I come out the other side, years…

Six Ways to Let Go of Your Need for Control - Free Yourself for More Peace and Mental Energy

Pricilla Du Preez/ Unsplash A desire to control the actions of other people often stems from feeling out of control. We typically learn controlling behaviors if we saw them modeled to us in childhood.  The irony is, trying to control other people and every little thing only makes you feel worse, because it’s a never…

What to Do When You Really Mess Up and 9 Steps to Take

You wake up and you hope it was a nightmare. You shut your eyes tight like maybe if you just go back to sleep it will disappear. You brace yourself before checking your phone to take in the wreckage. We've all been there. Humans make mistakes. Even robots make mistakes, so take comfort in the…

Your Guide to Healing From a Broken Heart

It sucks. There's no denying it. Maybe the pain feels like it will never end and you feel stupid for thinking that maybe, this time, it wouldn't end in heart break. You feel alone in your hurting and wonder why it happened, and wonder how things could be different in an alternate universe. The fact…

Move 27 Things- Set Your Home up to Inspire Positive Change

"Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change." Recently I learned about a feng shui tip to help promote personal growth: move 27 things in your home that have not been moved in the last year. If this sounds daunting, I tried it and completed it in under an hour-…

Creativity Procrastination- Follow the Calls to Create Instead

"When the muse comes to your bedside, do not tell her you'll fuck her later." -Allen Ginsberg When those little voices inside tell you to make something, create something, take a class, go somewhere new, do a little dance, make a little love, it's so easy to shun them away in favor of your to-do…