Why Rejection is Actually Good For You, Even if it Stings

Photo by Ran Berkovich via Unsplash When I was in my teens and early twenties, I didn't try too many new things or go after my dreams because I hated rejection. If I wasn't awesome at something, I didn't want to partake because that would be humiliating and reveal the fact that I was in…

How to Use Nature to Accomplish Your Goals- Change with the Seasons

"Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished." -Lao Tzu You don't have to force things. In fact, I'd argue, you should never force things. Working with the seasons of our planet and our lives is one way to let things unfold more organically, and in perfect timing. Wouldn't it feel better if you gave…

Why You Should Stop Checking Your Phone First Thing in the Morning and How to Do it

It’s too easy to spend our days scrolling our lives away, taking screenshots and making iNotes of all the motivational quotes, e-courses we want to do, self care tips, and books we want to read, without actually doing any of them. We can easily find ourselves endlessly searching for entertainment, connection, validation, all the while…

What To Do When You Feel Like You’re Not Doing Enough- Three Research Based Productivity Hacks To Shift Your Mindset

Have you ever thought about how much time most of us spend on the internet, or watching TV, and suddenly felt guilty that you haven’t written your memoir, doubled your income, revealed your 8 pack abs, and are still not interested in prepping food for the week on Sunday nights? It used to happen to…

Give Yourself Permission to Let Go of “Shoulds”– If Not Now, When?

This past month has been the pinnacle of a cluster fuck, I'm not going to lie. All kinds of skeletons came tumbling out of a closet I thought was clean, until I moved my dresser a little. Family drama, romantic upheaval, re-hashing sexual assault cases, pandemics, protests, murders, and preparing to do EMDR, in addition…

Healthy is Messy, Despite What Certain Self Help Gurus May Try to Sell You

Healthy is messy. I’ve been to seven therapists, struggled with and overcame an eating disorder, and dipped in and out of substance abuse for years. I’ve been in emotionally abusive and codependent relationships up the wazoo, and struggled with PTSD and depression. Am I fully healed? No. Have I come out the other side, years…

The Juice- Pink Champagne in a Can, Therapy Breakthroughs, and Getting Engaged to Yourself

Original Artwork by Ashley Longshore Welcome to The Juice! This is a feature I'll be releasing every week, a public gratitude list where I share what I'm loving, and what the highlights of my week have been- in other words, the juice! It's been over a month in self- quarantine, and while it's been an…

How to Make a Vision Board

If you have big hopes and dreams, and feel like they're out of reach, I encourage you to read on and learn how to make a vision board. Whatever you're dreaming of is possible, but it also requires your faith and dedication. A vision board is a daily reminder for you that will make you…

Move 27 Things- Set Your Home up to Inspire Positive Change

"Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change." Recently I learned about a feng shui tip to help promote personal growth: move 27 things in your home that have not been moved in the last year. If this sounds daunting, I tried it and completed it in under an hour-…

Creativity Procrastination- Follow the Calls to Create Instead

"When the muse comes to your bedside, do not tell her you'll fuck her later." -Allen Ginsberg When those little voices inside tell you to make something, create something, take a class, go somewhere new, do a little dance, make a little love, it's so easy to shun them away in favor of your to-do…