Why You Have to Love Yourself to Get the Things You Want

It all starts with loving yourself. Did you wince? Does self love make you uncomfortable? Does it feel vain and self- absorbed? Does the thought of looking into your own eyes in the mirror and saying "I love you" make you want to hurl? I get it, and I felt like this for a long

A Message and Reminder When Your Spirits are Down

It's ok to feel sad, tired, or worn out right now. It's ok if you're struggling, or if the days all seem to bleed together. It's ok if you can't always see the light at the end of the tunnel. The light is always there in the distance, but some days the fog makes it

How to Reclaim Valentines Day Whether You’re Single, In a Relationship, or Anything in Between

Every year, without fail, singles and taken folk alike get their panties all twisted in a bunch and moan about what a drag Valentines day is. If you're single, you're supposed to feel lonely and unwanted, and if you're paired, you're bound to be disappointed by the impossible standards set by marketers. Many people even

5 Ways to Move on When You Get Ghosted

Ghosting stings. It can make you feel rejected and abandoned at the same time, and it offers you no closure or feedback whatsoever. It’s an incredibly frustrating experience, and if it’s happened to you, I feel for you, I really do. In fact, research shows that social rejection and physical pain activate the same regions of the

5 Dating Mistakes to Stop Making, According to Experts

You've download the dating apps. You work up the courage to ask so-and-so out. You’re becoming the best version of yourself and you’re ready to share that with someone else. You’re trying. You’re putting yourself out there, and that’s something to be proud of. At least you’re not playing scared. Maybe you’ve been on countless

The Best Advice I’ve Ever Received- How One Tool Can Help Make All Your Decisions Easier

Photo by Resa Cahya via Unsplash There's a lot of advice out there. It's easy to get lost in it all. Maybe you find yourself heading to Google every time life throws a difficult decision at you, sifting through pages of expert opinions, research, blog posts and message boards. You'll find endless answers, from various

Crucial and Free Self Care Hacks for 2020

Photo by Jean Karim Dangou on Unsplash When Self Care makes it to the cover of the New York Times magazine, you know it's serious. Self care isn't just bath bombs and stylized photos of gals having tea in bed, it's crucial and daily practices we all need to keep from losing our shit. Or,

Be Selective With Your Company and Learn to Distinguish the People that Deplete You vs Recharge You

Sometimes, in moments of loneliness or poor self esteem, we say yes to spending time with people who bring us down. Maybe it's because they are always negative or complaining, or maybe they gossip incessantly. Perhaps you have a friend you gives you back-handed compliments, or frequently puts you down ever-so-subtly. One skill I encourage

It’s Our Job to Dismantle Structural Racism and Help Create a New World

I don't often post about current events, because I'm not a news journalist, but the protests surrounding George Floyd's death is a people issue, and an issue of cutting out the bullshit, learning to navigate hard times, and believe in and create a better future, which is what this blog is all about. When people

The Golden Rule that Will Make Your Life Easier and Calm Your Fears

We all wish there was some magic formula to feel good all the time, live less fearfully, and attract more love, money, and peace into our worlds than we could dream of. Just me? Didn't think so. There are, of course, plenty of ways to use manifesting and the law of attraction, self love, and