The Real, Scientific Reason You Keep Dating Unavailable Partners

I was the queen of dating emotionally unavailable people, and sometimes, straight up scrubs (financial wrecks, guys that lived with their parents, a couple alcoholics, and a couple other with mental health issues that they were not dealing with. It's been an adventure.) I've pined. I've wept. I've gone back to therapy. I also pushed

Why You Have to Love Yourself to Get the Things You Want

It all starts with loving yourself. Did you wince? Does self love make you uncomfortable? Does it feel vain and self- absorbed? Does the thought of looking into your own eyes in the mirror and saying "I love you" make you want to hurl? I get it, and I felt like this for a long

What to Do When You Backslide on the Way to Your Goals

Perhaps you’re practicing mindful drinking and you slip up and drink your feelings and two bottles of wine. Maybe you’re working on loving yourself and you’re internal dialogue is rife with bullying all day long. You might be welcoming in healthy, loving relationships, and you decide to phone up your toxic ex. You’re trying to

A Message and Reminder When Your Spirits are Down

It's ok to feel sad, tired, or worn out right now. It's ok if you're struggling, or if the days all seem to bleed together. It's ok if you can't always see the light at the end of the tunnel. The light is always there in the distance, but some days the fog makes it

How to Reclaim Valentines Day Whether You’re Single, In a Relationship, or Anything in Between

Every year, without fail, singles and taken folk alike get their panties all twisted in a bunch and moan about what a drag Valentines day is. If you're single, you're supposed to feel lonely and unwanted, and if you're paired, you're bound to be disappointed by the impossible standards set by marketers. Many people even

2020 Is a Disaster. Here’s Why I’m Thankful For All of It

Luke Bender via Unsplash This year I’m thankful for the pandemic. I’m thankful for the political climate, for the stress, for the economic uncertainty, and for having limited time with loved ones—truly, I am. Hear me out. I’m thankful for the pause, the upheaval, and the wake up call. I'm grateful for the at times

Why You Sometimes Have to Walk Away From Someone You Love

Photo by Austin Chan via Unsplash Emotional abuse can creep up on you, and there's nothing you could do that warrants abusive behavior. Although it's sometimes hard to believe, not everyone we meet, love, and bond with is meant to be in our lives forever. It can be challenging, however, to accept that when you

5 Ways to Move on When You Get Ghosted

Ghosting stings. It can make you feel rejected and abandoned at the same time, and it offers you no closure or feedback whatsoever. It’s an incredibly frustrating experience, and if it’s happened to you, I feel for you, I really do. In fact, research shows that social rejection and physical pain activate the same regions of the

5 Dating Mistakes to Stop Making, According to Experts

You've download the dating apps. You work up the courage to ask so-and-so out. You’re becoming the best version of yourself and you’re ready to share that with someone else. You’re trying. You’re putting yourself out there, and that’s something to be proud of. At least you’re not playing scared. Maybe you’ve been on countless

The Best Advice I’ve Ever Received- How One Tool Can Help Make All Your Decisions Easier

Photo by Resa Cahya via Unsplash There's a lot of advice out there. It's easy to get lost in it all. Maybe you find yourself heading to Google every time life throws a difficult decision at you, sifting through pages of expert opinions, research, blog posts and message boards. You'll find endless answers, from various