The Real, Scientific Reason You Keep Dating Unavailable Partners

I was the queen of dating emotionally unavailable people, and sometimes, straight up scrubs (financial wrecks, guys that lived with their parents, a couple alcoholics, and a couple other with mental health issues that they were not dealing with. It's been an adventure.) I've pined. I've wept. I've gone back to therapy. I also pushed…

Seven Tips to Feel More Confident

It's hard out there being human. We're bombarded with messages that tell us we're not good enough, and we often end up believing it, too, in the name of someone making a buck. I used to walk with slumped shoulders because I felt guilty for being tall, and didn't want to make others uncomfortable with…

A How to Guide to Intuitive Eating AKA A Case for Eating Whatever You Want- It’s Not What You Think

When someone hears "eat whatever you want" they might assume it means downing pizzas and ice cream on the daily, or eating burgers and fries for lunch every day. This may be the case if you're totally deprived and have been on a strict diet for too long, or use food as a coping mechanism,…

So, You Want to Move to a Small Town? Read This First.

The majestic, small town beauty of the Oregon Coast I dreamed of, and ultimately left. Vasiliki Volkova/ Unsplash. I used to idealize life in a small town. Knowing my neighbors? How dear. Limited options? What a relief. Big fish in a small pond? Confidence boost. While life in a small town does have its charms,…

The Best Advice I’ve Ever Received- How One Tool Can Help Make All Your Decisions Easier

Photo by Resa Cahya via Unsplash There's a lot of advice out there. It's easy to get lost in it all. Maybe you find yourself heading to Google every time life throws a difficult decision at you, sifting through pages of expert opinions, research, blog posts and message boards. You'll find endless answers, from various…

Scared to Set Boundaries? How to Set Boundaries to Strengthen Your Relationships and Find More Peace of Mind

Photo by Isaiah Rustad via Unsplash For years I avoided setting boundaries because I was scared. I was scared I would be seen as a bitch, as difficult, and I was scared of causing a stir and being disliked. I wanted to avoid conflict, and sweep shit under the rug. The result? I stewed in…

Be Selective With Your Company and Learn to Distinguish the People that Deplete You vs Recharge You

Sometimes, in moments of loneliness or poor self esteem, we say yes to spending time with people who bring us down. Maybe it's because they are always negative or complaining, or maybe they gossip incessantly. Perhaps you have a friend you gives you back-handed compliments, or frequently puts you down ever-so-subtly. One skill I encourage…

Self Care is a Radical Act- How to Use Self Care to Serve the Collective

Self care has become a bit of a buzzword these days, and sure, it can be an excuse for marketers to convince you to drop $500 on shoes, or buy shit you don't need, and maybe it's fun to do that once in a blue moon, but what if we re-framed self care as a…

Two Things to Remember When You’re Life Isn’t Going to Plan, and Everything Feels Messed Up

Sometimes we get so excited for particular outcomes, that we are devastated when they don't turn out the way we expected. Maybe you're going through a period in your life where it feels like you can't catch a break, and you know when it rains it pours, but this feels more like a monsoon. Perhaps…

My Favorite Non-Negotiable Self Care Practices

Self care has become sort of a buzzword in the last few years, but it's not necessarily something we learn in school, and maybe not at home either. Self care is how we show ourselves love, respect, and, obviously, care. Self care can be skin care, therapy, exercise, treating yo self, or even taking time…