The Real, Scientific Reason You Keep Dating Unavailable Partners

I was the queen of dating emotionally unavailable people, and sometimes, straight up scrubs (financial wrecks, guys that lived with their parents, a couple alcoholics, and a couple other with mental health issues that they were not dealing with. It's been an adventure.) I've pined. I've wept. I've gone back to therapy. I also pushed…

Seven Tips to Feel More Confident

It's hard out there being human. We're bombarded with messages that tell us we're not good enough, and we often end up believing it, too, in the name of someone making a buck. I used to walk with slumped shoulders because I felt guilty for being tall, and didn't want to make others uncomfortable with…

Why You Have to Love Yourself to Get the Things You Want

It all starts with loving yourself. Did you wince? Does self love make you uncomfortable? Does it feel vain and self- absorbed? Does the thought of looking into your own eyes in the mirror and saying "I love you" make you want to hurl? I get it, and I felt like this for a long…

What to Do When You Backslide on the Way to Your Goals

Perhaps you’re practicing mindful drinking and you slip up and drink your feelings and two bottles of wine. Maybe you’re working on loving yourself and you’re internal dialogue is rife with bullying all day long. You might be welcoming in healthy, loving relationships, and you decide to phone up your toxic ex. You’re trying to…

Feeling Pandemic Fatigued? Try These Tips to Get Out of a Funk

We're coming up on the one year anniversary of global lockdowns due to the coronavirus pandemic, and many of us are fatigued. Zoom fatigue, pandemic fatigue, virtual chat fatigued, people are over it. So many of us feel depleted, tired of re-living the same groundhog day over and over again. People are drinking more, seeking…

A Message and Reminder When Your Spirits are Down

It's ok to feel sad, tired, or worn out right now. It's ok if you're struggling, or if the days all seem to bleed together. It's ok if you can't always see the light at the end of the tunnel. The light is always there in the distance, but some days the fog makes it…

How to Reclaim Valentines Day Whether You’re Single, In a Relationship, or Anything in Between

Every year, without fail, singles and taken folk alike get their panties all twisted in a bunch and moan about what a drag Valentines day is. If you're single, you're supposed to feel lonely and unwanted, and if you're paired, you're bound to be disappointed by the impossible standards set by marketers. Many people even…

The Surprising Way to Succeed at Your Fitness Goals

With New Years resolutions fizzling out, many people who planned to finally take charge of their health, and make a difference in the way they eat, exercise, and take care of themselves find themselves losing willpower. Maybe you want to lose weight, lean out, run your first 5k, start training for a marathon, or be…

So, You Want to Move to a Small Town? Read This First.

The majestic, small town beauty of the Oregon Coast I dreamed of, and ultimately left. Vasiliki Volkova/ Unsplash. I used to idealize life in a small town. Knowing my neighbors? How dear. Limited options? What a relief. Big fish in a small pond? Confidence boost. While life in a small town does have its charms,…

How to Make and Keep Your New Years Resolutions This Year

Ah, New Years resolutions. We make them, break them, and keep coming back for more. Some avoid them altogether, while others dive headfirst into lofty goals and then face inevitable disappointment when their goals are impossible to meet. 2020 has been an exceptional year. As a self proclaimed optimist, I have struggled this year to…