"Perfectionism is procrastination in a great outfit." Being too hard on yourself is like turning two bowling balls into a pair of shoes and wearing them around; totally unnecessary, guaranteed to slow you down, and you're going to fall and hurt yourself. You might think it'll give you a great booty, but there's way more
"Sometimes, the only way out is through." -Robert Frost It's ok to not be happy all the time. White knuckling joy in uncomfortable or painful moments is unhealthy. Emotions signal to us that something is up, and sitting with and moving through our negative emotions allows us to grow, and the shitty feelings to pass.